Chapter and Verse
Starting something new is exciting and motivating, or else you wouldn’t have started in the first place. Then we start comparing our progress to those we see around us, and we feel our lack of ability, or progress and we get discouraged. This happens no matter what the thing is that we started, a new meal plan, a new workout, a new job or business or a new relationship. We see the other person as better than we are, and what we are doing.
The problem is that we are comparing our start with their experience. I’ve heard it explained as reading a book. When you start reading, you are learning about the characters and the plot and it takes a while to really understand what’s going on. You can’t compare your chapter 1 with someone who is on chapter 10.
If you are just getting started on anything, you are not going to have the same experience as someone who has been doing it for a while. Sure, they can give you advice and direction and support, but ultimately, it is up to you to do the work and put in the time. Sometimes we put the book away for a bit. You will have challenges and you will falter, and sometimes you must go back a couple of chapters to pick up something that you missed or have forgotten, but you are still doing it.
The thing that we often forget is that even if you are in chapter 1, you are ahead of someone who hasn’t even picked up the book. Someday someone will look at what you are doing and be inspired or motivated by you.
It’s also important to realize why you are “reading that book” in the first place. Is it because it’s something you really want to do, or are you doing it because it’s the trendy read? Years ago, I read “The Divinci Code” by Dan Brown because everyone was reading it. Even though the idea was interesting to me, I did not enjoy it at all. On the other hand, I have read all the “Outlander” books by Diana Gabaldon numerous times and love the stories more each time. Even though I didn’t enjoy the Dan Brown books, I can still have discussions with other people who did, and we can each share our experience.
So, start your “book”, take your time and enjoy the read.
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