A Word to the “Whys” and story telling
Anyone who has spent time with children knows that they are very “whys” creatures. They hit a certain age and they want to know the why of everything. We start off patiently replying to their questions, but after a while, we often shut them out with the standard “just because!” I remember when my oldest son was about 4 years old, and he keep asking my husband the why of something, and Ray, finally exasperated, picked up my mother’s colourful address book and said “because it’s in the book, that’s why”. Apparently, this satisfied Sean’s curiosity, at least for a little while.
I have had many discussions lately with people about “their why”. It started when I watched a youtube video of Simon Sinek talking about knowing your why. Basically, he said that a lot of companies and people explain what they do, and how they do it, but they never get to why they do it. He suggests that we start the other way around and find our why, then explain how, and then what. Then my mentor from Sculpt Health and Wellness head office said that he wanted to do a video with me to talk about my why. To round out the group of three, I was at a meeting of bloggers and part of the discussion centered around how to explain what it is that bloggers do…again another why.
Most of the people I talked to struggled with this question. It seems like such a simple thing, but oh it is not. I started thinking about it. Why do I “do” Sculpt? Of course, I made it all too complicated, and tried to come up with fancy things and all the right words. I kept coming back to what I Do, not WHY I DO IT. Finally, one night when I was talking with Ray, I just blurted out “My why is all about helping people to see that every day that they wake up, they have another opportunity to make changes in their life. I want to encourage and support people on their journey.”
The other lesson I learned this week came to me courtesy of my 4-year-old friend, Trinity. She loves to tell stories, and I listened to her talking about her pet snake, whose name is Lips and who eats squid. The great thing was that she believed every word she said. Athletes and others spend lots of money to hire trainers who tell them to visualize what they want to have happen, because as adults, we need to be taught to “pretend”. Children do it all the time, and we so often tell them to “tell the truth” or “stop making up stories”.
So, my dear readers, my challenge for you this week is to be child like. Search for your why and make up some stories. You never know what could happen next!
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